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Love Maps


 After learning about love maps I now know of the importance. Love maps help couples to know one another's worlds, to share fondness and admiration, to turn towards one another instead of away, to have a positive perspective, to help manage conflict by accepting your partner's influence, have dialogue about problems and to practice self-soothing, it aids in making life dreams come true and to create shared meaning. It was interesting learning about love maps because I had never heard of them before. I am going to create a love map with my husband. I think it could be a fun activity to do with my husband to help us connect on another level. It can be difficult to maintain love maps overtime because it is an ongoing map that evolves with the couple as new struggles or goals arise. Marriages are such complex relationships that have both external and internal factors influencing the marriage. 
Loves maps help you to understand your spouse, and it offers another way to communicate and work as a team. 

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The principle of nurturing my fondness and admiration has strengthened my relationship with many individuals. I will focus on my relationship with my husband. In my marriage it is important to spend quality time with my husband. My husband travels for work, so because of this we have learned to really make the most out of the time we have together. When we are apart, we make efforts to call one another, and share about our days and connect. It is so important for us to have moments of connection whether we are together or apart. Expressing words of love and showing our fondness for one another through serving each other has been helpful. We have found ways to show love to the other through their love language. I am someone who is receptive to all love languages. My top love languages would be acts of service and quality time person. My husband is quality time and physical touch. My husband makes conscious efforts to serve me because I feel loved in that way. I make efforts to always share my love through physical touch by doing something like playing with his hair as we talk about our day. This touches on our need for quality time, my need to talk, and his need for physical touch.

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